When it comes to weight loss, there are usually a set of things that you plan to add to you life such as walking more and there are usually a set of things that you plan to do less of, such as eating candy. When it comes to the latter, how do you talk to yourself? When you are staring down one of the foods you are trying to eat less of, do you tell yourself “I can’t eat that” or perhaps “I shouldn’t eat that” or even “I can’t believe I just ate that!”
A Simple But Powerful Word Change
If you swap out the word “can’t” or “shouldn’t” for “don’t” it can completely change how your subconscious interprets what you are doing. Read these two sentences:
“I can’t eat that cake”
“I don’t want to eat that cake”
“I can’t” feels punishing and restrictive. It is as if your mother is making the decision for you and telling you to go to bed without dinner. It feels like you being denied something you want. It feels bad.
“I don’t want to” feels empowering. You are making the choice for yourself. Sometimes you eat cake and sometimes you don’t. There are consequences to eating cake and right now you don’t want those consequences so you don’t want the cake. No thank you. No big deal.
Try It Out For Yourself
Every time you hear “I can’t” in your head, swap it into “I don’t want to” and see what a difference it can make not only to achieving your goals but also to your emotional well being as you learn to treat yourself more softly, more kindly and with more respect.
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